October 14, 2004
For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction
Note: These entries constitute a collection of thoughts I had over the past several weeks which sprang directly from my day-to-day experience. I make no claims as to whether they have any general application, or even as to their "objective" accuracy. It could even be that this is my own personal way of dealing with a situation of which I have in some way always been a part, but which I have no means of affecting (let alone altering) in any way. I say only, this is what came into my mind. For this and every entry in this grouping, the perspectives are sometimes directly my own in isolation and sometimes leap through what I think to be other people's eyes. Thus the use of "one", "I", and "you" will seem, well, creative ... and yet this is the way the thoughts finally took on the shapes of words, and so I leave them in whichever perspective or level of abstraction they originally chose. Some sections are longer than others. This first one is among the shortest.
- Active and critical (in close to but not exactly the sense of analytical) consideration of one's own life is the first essential step in attempting to understand oneself, which is the foundation of attempting to understand others: which may in turn possibly smooth interaction, at least to the extent of non-mutual escalation of a vicious circle.
- Your insights will never equal my experience.
- Not losing one's temper when dealing with others can be difficult. Not responding in kind, more so. Understanding of self and other such that instinctive defensiveness is no longer required, even harder. But perhaps hardest of all is to hold to what is deemed necessary without once projecting even the shadow of an excuse for another's aggression.
- Never commit to another on the rebound from a failed relationship.
- How many exceptions are required before the rule itself must be rethought?